I’ve been settling Mally into her new nursery for two weeks now. The idea being that, once she’s settled, she will go for two days a week. Until that time comes, we are there everyday slowly settling her for a bit at a time. I couldn’t be more pleased with this arrangement, I’m so glad that the nursery place importance on settling in and I’m happy for us to take our time, only it’s really bloody hard.
I really didn’t think that I would bat an eyelid, never mind feel compelled to write about settling my baby into nursery, I mean – it’s boring right? Only, once you’re in the middle of it, it’s not. It’s all I’ve been thinking about the past two weeks. Is she okay? Am I doing the wrong thing sending her away for two days? Should I go back to work? Should I not go back to work? Shall we pull her out? Does she actually stop crying once I leave? Is she eating? Is she having fun? Will she make friends? Is she happy there? blah blah blah…
I have settled children myself before. I’ve settled kids into Nursery and into Reception. I know the drill. Yet, each time when I arrive at the nursery door and when I leave her screaming my name behind me, I have to have a firm word with myself. The conversation goes a little like this.
It might help to bring in something from home for those first days. A favourite book or teddy that she loves is always a good option.
Where the fuck is that doll that she never even plays with at home? I brought it on day one and on day two and now it’s gone, and all of a sudden she desperately wants it . And I’ve forgotten the sodding dummy.
It really does help if you can tell us a little bit about the things she enjoys. Favourite songs? Favourite books? Activities that she enjoys?
Why can’t I remember anything about my child when put on the spot. What the hell does she like? What do we do together all day? I am a good mum nursery lady, I swear!
*lies and says the first thing that comes to my head,
Make sure you say a quick but clear goodbye before you leave so that she knows you will be back to collect her later.
”I love you so much have a great time I’m going now I’l be back soon have fun you’ll be great okay bye, cya, love you, goodbye, be back later, okay, bye, have fun, bye.”
*hangs around walking back and forth outside the building for ten minutes. WHAT ARE YOU DOING PSYCHO MUM?!
Relax, go have a cup of tea and come back in an hour. Everything will be okay.
You never drink coffee, why did you just downed a cappuccino? Is it too early for wine? Great, now I’m having a heart attack.
If you’re about to settle your little one in to nursery, listen to Teacher Me, for some useful tips in making the transition as smooth as possible. Remember, every child is different so try not to compare with others. Some children settle super quickly and others take their time.
We will make it and so will you. Everything will be okay.